Monday, December 6, 2010

My Thoughts about Love and Affection in the Master/slave Relationship

First, I believe that a submissive has but two decisions to make when entering into a Master/slave 
relationship. One is the decision to become a slave in total, and the other is to know that 
she loves, or is capable of loving, the Master she is considering. A Master may command and 
force many things upon a slave, but he cannot force her to love him, and he cannot force her 
to willingly become his slave. Those two decisions are the slaves and the slaves alone, and 
are the basis for entering into the relationship.

Second, while love and affection typically go hand and hand they are indeed, 2 different things.
While affection provides the primary motivation for the relationship to exist, love tends to 
be the longer lasting component that develops with time, trust and mutual caring. 

I believe that a quality Master/slave relationship must be based on mutual love and affection 
between the two. Those things provide a positive motivation for the slave to embrace the 
relationship and be devoted to her Master. I also believe that love and affection exist 
as a two-way street. There should be a mutual amount of love and affection exchanged 
between the two for the relationship to be fulfilling and successful. While I know that there 
are some relationships that exist without love and affection, I also believe that those relationships 
that are based on domination and force alone are doomed to failure because there is no motivation for the slave to embrace the relationship except fear, and that is rarely sufficient to sustain the relationship. 

I believe that love and affection are necessary to provide the necessary motivation for a Master and 
slave to exist within a successful relationship. The Master must be motivated to take on the 
responsibility of the slave and guiding the relationship to be successful. In order to 
accomplish this effectively, a Master should have love and affection for his slave and 
provide for her needs. Likewise a slave must be motivated to follow all rules, commands 
and orders given her by her Master to the best of her ability which will contribute to the
well-being of the relationship. In order to accomplish this effectively, she should be 
devoted to her Master and all of his needs and be willing to do whatever is required by the 
Master. I believe however, that devotion can only come from and be motivated by love and 
affection, for without those things true devotion is not possible.  A Master and slave may 
also have ideals they feel they should live up to. Those ideals, in part, contribute to a 
successful Master/slave relationship. Those ideals should also be based on the mutual love, 
affection, devotion and mutual respect that exist in the relationship and should be lived 
through and guided by the Master.

Finally, while I’m sure there are some Master/slave relationships that run on domination 
and force alone, or even one-sided love,  I truly believe that mutual love and affection 
are the keys to a successful and long lasting relationship and they should be nurtured as well.

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