Meaningful Things I've Learned Over Time

Much of the thoughts in this blog were handed down to me from one of my 7 mentors almost 26 years ago now, and while I've reworded a few of them over time they have always served me well and also other Masters that I've mentored. After over 3 years of training and being bound by oath to teach others in the lifestyle I have found that these thoughts have always been a good foundation to build on. It is my sincere hope that it serves others here well also..

• The slave’s safety will always be of top priority to a wise Dominant, both physically and emotionally.

•  Always have and respect a slave’s safe word and never put her in a position to be afraid to use it.

•  Just as slavery is a gift to be treasured, Domination is a talent to be mastered so be educated and experienced at dominating before you take on the responsibility of another's life.

• Don't be too arrogant to be able to listen and understand your slave’s viewpoints and needs. You might just learn something from them. After all communication is the foundation of a strong Master/slave relationship and can not be obtained if it is all one sided.

• Never punish your slave by withholding your affection, this is emotional blackmail.

• Know the difference between punishment and dicipline before you apply either to your slave, and use them properly and only when necessary as they are both tools to be used wisely.
• Provide guidance and support when needed and stay tuned in to your slave’s emotions. In return you will gain a slave that is eager to please and serve you because they feel of value.

• Provide your slave with rules and guidelines to stay within and when the slave steps out of those guidelines, consistantly apply discipline or punishment as necessary.

• Understand that just as a Dominant must learn to trust his slave, so must a Dominant earn the trust of his slave. This does not undermine your control but strengthens it.

• Enjoy and use what is offered to you with kindness, harshness, pain and pleasure and have the wisdom to know when to use each one.

• Never be too full of pride or blinded by your own "power trip" to admit when you have made a mistake and to even say "I'm sorry".  Just as no slave is perfect for their Dominant 24 hours a day; no Dominant is perfect either.

• Don't be afraid to extend trust. Just as you prove that you are trustworthy when the slave trusts you, so you can only develop your slave’s trustworthiness by being willing to extend trust.

• Teach, train and nurture your slave. The more the slave knows and can do, the more valuable your slave is to herself as a person, and the more valuable her slavery to you will become to you both. It is more satisfying to have a strong person trust you by yielding control than to have control over a person who is a "doormat."